"Don't ever talk to strangers," I remember my mom telling me every school day morning when I was a kid. This is one of the wise teachings that I held on tightly until it was time for me to get a job of my own. In the real world, nobody will survive alone. Sooner or later, we all would talk to strangers and expand our social circle.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being cautious when we're trying to make new acquaintances. Hopefully, as we get older and develop our instinct more, we have learned how and when to approach a total stranger such that we don't get ourselves in trouble. The ability to communicate to others (especially strangers) is a talent that successful, charismatic people utilize efficiently to achieve whatever they want: money, power, love, respect, etc.

Not talking to strangers as kids definitely served us well as kids. It kept us safe. But now that we're adults, it is one of those "rules" that we need to break if we want to start new relationships, especially when online dating.

Online dating provides a great medium for people to meet others and look for potential mates. Meeting and talking to strangers more that just a "good thing", it is "necessary". The more strangers you talk to increases your chances of finding your future partner.

Here are two other 'rules' that our parents used to impose to us as kids to ensure they groomed us as better persons:

Rule #2. The second rule that my parents taught me when I was a kid was related to the first. To ensure that I grow up well-mannered, my mom and dad always reminded me to "wait to be properly introduced before engaging in a conversation".

This is especially true in Asian cultures, where interrupting a discussion is a big taboo. Asian culture requires that a person, especially a girl, should always be introduced formally before she can engage in a talk. Her ways and words should be kept formal until a mutual understanding is achieved. This culture is still reflected in most Asian Dating Sites where women are expected to be very proper in the beginning.

In social networking sites, however, it is very rare that people introduce others to their friends. In most cases, we are our own PR persons, not hesitating to introduce ourselves to strangers who appear to be of interest.

Rule #3. No matter what others say, this rule is a 'must break' when online dating. It says: "Good things come to those who wait." Time is a precious commodity, especially online where competition is tight. Every second we waste before approaching a potential mate decreases our chances of getting noticed by that person. A more appropriate rule should be: "Good things come to those who get them."

While it is a must to talk to strangers, introduce ourselves, and be aggressive when meeting dates on the web, there are also things that our parents taught us that we should not forget: our values. Our values mostly make up our personality and these are what make us unique, interesting, and special.

Jeanette Villareal is an expert blogger who often writes about online dating. She recommends using a dating site directory when planning to join online dating for the first time.

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