Male orgasm denial must be in my experience the most misunderstood, yet also one of the most delicious sexy games you can incorporate into your marriage.
On the face of it, you'd suppose it was totally bizarre and strange and no man could ever agree to let you stop right at that "point of no return" and keep him waiting - sometimes for days, weeks, and months on end... and in some marriages, a good deal longer than that.
And we're all aware how much men like their orgasms, right? Let's face it... for most men, sex is indivisible from their orgasm, and according to some anthropologists, the male orgasm has been the fundamental driving force behind a great deal human development (in human society, men with the greatest "status" get the "best" mates... and "status" is often as having a greater stock of scarce resources, like land, property and money).
So, what is male orgasm denial, what would make any man consent to it, and why would any woman want to "impose" it on her boyfriend?
As the name suggests, it justs means the man consensually gives over control of his orgasm to another - usually his wife or girlfriend - and doesn't get to enjoy one unless she says it's allowed.
Precisely how it's "imposed" depends on the dynamics of their relationship and methods range from simple agreement (where the man is on his "honour" not to come) all the way through 24/7 captivity in a steel chastity device (which is how I keep my man, John, entirely by his agreement).
That, in a nutshell (forgive the pun), is that!
Why Would Men Consent to Male Orgasm Denial?
Well, strange as it may seem it actually improves their sex lives. It's important to note it does NOT mean couples don't have sex. They often do. In fact, they often have MORE sex than they had before they started the practice, and they have it more often. The difference is the man doesn't orgasm and so the focus of his attention is now on the woman rather than himself.
Contrary to popular belief, men often actually enjoy this aspect more than any other - because they really do like to please us women (hard to believe at times, I know).
A second reason men will agree to male orgasm denial is it's the closest thing they're ever going to get to a woman's multiple orgasm. They're not giving up the pleasure of their orgasms... they're savouring them. And when they eventually do get to have one... my oh my... see the fireworks!
Why Would Wives Want to "Impose" It on Their Men?
The answer to this, to a degree, is similar to the answer to the question above, but from the other direction: improved sex, and lovemaking more often. Most women might laugh peevishly and groan a little at the thought of having more sex... but only because sex nowadays is nothing to write home about.
Yet I think you'll be surprised at how strict male orgasm denial has the knock-on effect of rapidly increasing your desire for lovemaking, too.
Because he'll naturally become more affectionate, attentive, intimate and emotionally connected to you, which are all things the majority of women complain are missing in their boyfriends.
In short, your marriage is going to become closer - it's going to be just like it was in those early-days when you were first together, but with the additional benefit of your having developed that powerful emotional bond. You can have your cake and eat it, in other words.
It's true it won't be for every couple and won't necessarily suit every marriage, but if you're essentially happy together and you are open to the thought of exploring something new to get the flames of passion burning bright once more, then you could do worse than to give male orgasm denial a whirl.
Sarah Jameson, avid devotee of the benefits of harsh and inflexible male orgasm denial
, and host of the Male Chastity Blog
is a happily married woman and freelance writer. She first discovered male orgasm denial almost three years ago, and now writes extensively about it to share her experience and help educate other men and women about this astoundingly satisfying but very often misunderstood lifestyle choice. She keeps her husband, John, by his own consent in long-term male orgasm denial for up to a year at a time.
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